If you like it hard, you're in the right place. Give your partner something with a whip, tie her or him with firm bondage rope, handcuffs or make partner sex special with latex or masks.

If you are experienced and slapping your ass is no longer enough, look for bondage sets, collars and gags. Conquer your partner's pride through CBT (cock and balls torture), and if you like pain, play with nipple clips and clamps, BDSM candles, or chastity belts.

Ouuuu, this may hurt a little, but it will be fun and you will experience hitherto unknown feelings.

Just don't be afraid to experiment. What seems a little too much to you today may become your favorite bed pastime tomorrow. Throw away the shame and drive it hard.